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This is actually sadly relevant. I had a lecture this summer about sign languages and Deaf culture and when I was finished, one hearing girl from the audience stayed behind to ask me some more question.
She asked me: “And your parents use sign language, right?” Like it was the most obvious thing in the world and why is she even asking this, of course my parents must know sign language.
"No… They don’t, actually."
"And how do you communicate, then?"
"But… isn’t that complicated for you?"
"It is, sometimes."
"They probably didn’t have time for it…" she said. And I haven’t the heart to tell her that my father was offered sign language courses several times, that I offered to teach them some signs and that they always refused.
But I did told her: “It is not that rare. Most of deaf people I know have hearing parents who don’t sign.”
It’s the sad truth. People are willing to pay for surgeries to “repair” their children, but they are not willing to learn something to communicate with them.
i’d like to add onto this with my own personal experience, too. i was born hearing, but as soon as i was diagnosed as HoH, my parents didn’t do anything to learn ASL. they were quick to put me in classes, but they wouldn’t when i suggested to them that they take the classes with me so that we could learn.
i’ve tried to teach my mom how to sign numerous times, but she always says that “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks,” to which i tell her that she can learn, she just doesn’t want to. which is true. neither of my parents want to learn how to sign, but they want me to be able to hear perfectly so they don’t have to repeat themselves.
little do they know that their frustration with me not being able to hear them would be solved if they would just learn how to sign. maybe signing something to me once instead of repeating themselves four times and then getting mad would be more beneficial.
I’m absolutely shocked at this, it’s never crossed my mind that many parents wouldn’t even try to meet their hard of hearing kids halfway.
What the fuck kind of parenting is that? I’m appalled.
Listen, man. If you’re going to be a parent, then that means you have to be prepared to pull your finger out and do things for them, even when it’s inconvenient for you. Your kid didn’t ask to be lumped in with you; you did that, and now you’re going to have to do everything you can to make that kid’s life as decent and balanced and good as you can possibly manage. That’s what being a parent means. Your kids don’t owe you shit.
Now normally when I explain that it’s because someone is bitching and whining about having an ungrateful child who doesn’t want to do X, Y or Z with them or for them or who isn’t living up to expectations, like that child is indebted to them because they fulfilled the basic criteria of human decency by raising them with some semblance of compassion and care, but this? Horrendous.
I’m sorry, does learning a new skill so that you can communicate with your child seem like it’s above and beyond somehow? Sorry, matey, but it isn’t. You’re a parent, this is your job. Pull your fucking socks up.
I’m reblogging this because it is common within the deaf community to hear these kinds of stories. I wanted to add my own experience, but I want it to be known that I am not deaf and was only briefly involved in the community. I just wanted to mention the split experience my family had when I was born.
When I was born, I was born mute. My grandmother was disgusted and disappointed. She demanded to know “Well, what are you going to do with her?”
My dear mother responded, with anger, “Then we’re going to learn sign language!”
What the hell people?!??
When I was pregnant my husband and I started learning basic signing JUST IN CASE our daughter had hearing problems. I cannot imagine not doing everything I possibly could to help her- and that includes me having to learn something new to help her or take care of her better.
Why is there a generally accepted mentality that it’s the child’s “fault” if something is “wrong” or “less than normal”????
How can people see Emma Watson being verbally attacked online and threatened with hacked nudes being released by men because of her speech on gender equality and still think we don’t need feminism. It’s not women who make men out to be some evil creatures, you guys do that well enough on your own.
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